Without a doubt, we all face some unpleasant situations every other day. One way or another, some situations are not conducive to happiness. Some say it is your attitude and choice that make you feel happy or otherwise. This is so true, provided you know how to not let unhappy event influence your reactions. You are only a slave of your own self when you let external factors determine and restrict your freedom and influence your mood.
What is happiness to you
For me, it is a feeling of inner peace and satisfaction. Happiness is a result of being free from obsession, worries and fears. Although happiness is the outcome of positive events, the feeling actually comes from the inside.
Happiness to some people can be temporary and intermittent, all because they allow unpleasant situations to affect them. To remain happy, you need to gain inner peace by ways you know best. Some people pray and reflect, some will meditate and so on. Only when your mind is more at peace can it become easier for you to choose to be happy.
I often feel that when people fail to end the day happy, that unhappiness will snowball. It will accumulate enough to make you feel bitter and negative towards life.
What you can do to increase your level of happiness
It is always easier said than done but you definitely have within you the power to change things. No one is totally positive at all times, the mind will somehow drag you into negativity and difficulties. Always look on the bright side. You want to make it a habit, not just try.
Feed your ears with uplifting or soothing sounds, whatever makes you feel good. Some people feel rejuvenated by rock classics, instrumental pieces and for some, verses of the Holy Book.
Always think of the solutions and not the problems.
Be on the alert. The moment you begin having negative thoughts, bounce back and think of the many good and pleasant events you have had.
Read something light but inspiring everyday or watch some comedies or listen to some humour.
Stop worrying about what you have not achieved. Instead, think about the things you have done and how you can benefit from them to accomplish those you have not done.
Never set a rigid timeline or desire to accomplish objectives lest you become frustrated and unhappy when you fail to get things done. I am not promoting laziness, rather for you to just step back and become more efficient.
Understand what being ordinary is about. Ordinary people are a happy lot because their lives are less complicated and often, they know the meaning of priority.
Treat yourself with something good every once in a while. It could be little pleasures like having time to yourself or buying yourself a book or perhaps taking an evening walk by the beach.
Do small gestures to make people around you happy, especially family members. Believe me, when you see them happy, you will be happy and they will want to make you happy!
Be happy for other people's happiness and achievements. Envy can only rot the bones.
Be around happy people and pick up a lesson or two from them. If there is any good contagious thing, it is happiness.
If all else fail, detach yourself from everything for a bit. Free your mind and distance yourself until you are calmer.
How do you increase your level of happiness and remain happy?